The trainer blues: Dare to create a vacuum!
I’ve spoken to several horse owners lately who had the same depressing condition: The Trainer Blues. See this list to check yourself for symptoms:
- When your trainer interacts with your horse, you frequently cringe inside or feel like apologizing to your horse
- You’ve been working on the same issues over and over, feeling like things are getting worse rather than better
- Your horse wants to ‘hit the road’ when he sees the trainer coming, you reassure him ‘it’ll be ok’
- You are really interested in exploring different riding philosophies, but your trainer will hear nothing of it
- You are afraid to ask questions, your trainer is ‘untouchable’
- You are not sure what’s going on, but you don’t look forward to your riding lessons any more. You want out, but this seems to be the best trainer in the area.
If more than one of the above applies to you, you’ve got the Trainer Blues! We all want the best for our horses and it’s hard to resist a reputable trainer, one that everyone in the barn uses or that was recommended to us by our best friend.
On the other hand, there is no licensing requirement for horse trainers and riding instructors in the US and the industry doesn’t have a homogenous self-regulating mechanism. In other words, there trainers of all sorts of backgrounds, philosophies, methods and angles out there, with widely varying degrees of experience and qualification.
How does one bring light into the jungle? I believe it starts with asking yourselves the right questions:
- What is the riding philosophy that most appeals to me? Or, if i am unsure: Is there a rider I look up to, who inspires me? (Can be someone like Rainer Klimke or Tom Dorrance.) What was their philosophy?
- What kind of riding do I want to do?
- What’s my skill level? (that’s a tough one…)
- What type of trainer –> horse interaction would I most appreciate?
- Do I know what my horse’s potential is? What is his skill level?
After honestly and bravely (especially in regard to your own riding skills and the abilities of your horse…) answering these questions, you can move on to the next set of questions:
- Does my trainer meet most of my criteria? (This is a tough one, especially if you really like your trainer personally.)
If yes, you don’t have the Trainer Blues… If No, move on to asking:
- Which points could I compromise on?
- Do I know of a trainer – near or far – who represents the philosophy I am interested in?
- Is there a way I can observe this person? Can I reach out to this person to recommend someone in my area?
- Is there an organization that can recommend a trainer? (This can be an organization like CHA, NARHA, USDF or a local endurance/distance riding club, etc.)
- Am I prepared to do what it takes to find the right trainer?
If yes, all you now have to come up with is:
THE COURAGE TO CREATE A VACUUM
This is the number one reason I observed, why people stick with trainers that they are not in agreement with. It seems to feel ‘safer’ to do ‘something’ (as in working with the wrong trainer) than doing ‘nothing’ (as in allowing a period without trainer).
Well, let’s ask another stakeholder in this scenario: What would your horse say about this?
Our horses are much smarter, more intuitive and sensitive than many of us think. Every time you cringe while watching the trainer work with your horse, your horse cringes, too! He knows there is something not quite right. He doesn’t feel safe, if you feel worried about something. How could your horse now make any progress?
I know how hard it is to find someone qualified, who we like personally and who teaches us our riding philosophy of choice in a pleasant and non-confrontational way. I’d like to encourage you to say NO to what feels wrong to you, create this trainer-vacuum and open the door for the right professional.